quotes on Love, attachment, Sex and Relationships
is how we love, Buddha-style:
impartial to all, free from
attachment or false hope and expectation;
Buddhist nonattachment doesn't imply complacence
indifference, or not having committed relationships or being
passionately engaged with society, but rather has to do with our effort
to defy change and resist the fact of impermanence and our mortality.
By holding on to that which in any case is forever slipping through our
fingers, we just get rope burn.
- Lama Surya Das, “A
Buddhist Valentine,” from Ask the Lama column at
www.beliefnet.com (see also: Buddhist Valentine Gifts for men, and Buddhist Valentine Gifts for women)
a famous quotation from the time the Buddha learned of the deaths of
two of his greatest disciples: “It's as if the sun and the
left the sky.” From that quotation, I would guess that while
loved all beings everywhere, with no exclusion, he also had
relationships that were special to him, and he felt their loss.
Salzberg, “The Open Heart,” Q&A at
give way to heedlessness
or to intimacy
for a heedful person,
attains an abundance of ease.
- The flaws
of cyclic existence: Relatives at home, enemies, friends and
possessions in the world are the causes of worry for the body and mind.
Only virtuous actions can benefit others. Therefore, I will not be
attached to these ties and I will cast them away as I would a snake in
- Four Thoughts that Turn the Mind to Dharma
(#4): Ngondro Practice text provided to students of Karma Kagyu Tibetan
- If one stays too long
They will soon tire of him;
such closeness leads to dislike and hate.
It is but human to
expect and demand too much
When one dwells too long in
- “The Song of the Snow
is pleasure when a sore is scratched,
But to be without sores
is more pleasurable still.
Just so, there are pleasures in
But to be without desires is more pleasurable
- Nagarjuna, "Precious Garland"
according to Sangarakshita is rooted in the Lower Evolution and does
not, in his experience, enhance communication between individuals. And
sexual relationships, encouraging as they do neurotic dependence on
one's partner, need to be kept at the periphery of one's life.
“An Introduction to the Friends of the Western Buddhist
passion is radiation without a radiator, a fluid, pervasive warmth that
flows effortlessly. It is not destructive because it is a balanced
state of being and highly intelligent. Self-consciousness inhibits this
intelligent, balanced state of being. By opening, by dropping our
self-conscious grasping, we see not only the surface of an object, but
we see the whole way through.
- Meditation in Action,
Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche
people live closely guarded lives, fearful of encountering someone or
something that might shatter their insecure spiritual foundation. This
attitude, however, is not the fault of religion but of their own
limited understanding. True Dharma leads in exactly the opposite
direction. It enables one to integrate all the many diverse experiences
of life into a meaningful and coherent whole, thereby banishing fear
and insecurity completely.
Thubten Yeshe, Reprinted from "Daily Wisdom: 365 Buddhist
Inspirations," edited by Josh Bartok, Wisdom Publications, 2001
is precisely because our present life is so inseparably linked with
desire that we must make use of desire's tremendous energy if we wish
to transform our life into something transcendental.
- More quotations from
the Buddhist tradition:
Nhat Hanh on Love
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